Personally speaking, I haven't seen a membership notification for you yet, but I did have some problems with my V-F email account last week.
Because you haven't got the red member avatar and access to the ClubHouse, your forum account hasn't been changed to show that, and that doesn't get done unless there's a membership notification. Have you received your membership kit yet?
I'd suggest sending a PM to pixuk (Pete) asking about this in case he doesn't see this thread. He's the site owner & processes the membership kits - he'll be able to either do the account modification himself or let the rest of us know to do them (there are another couple of us that do the forum account modifications).
Cheers
Michael